Do it for the right reason!

June 23, 2015

So a few friends and I had a discussion a couple of days ago about relationships and expectations thereof... It got me thinking...

Many girls stay in relationships for all the wrong reasons and what they ultimately want is marriage... That’s most girls goal in life, and it is something that has been like that for many years, even in these modern times where woman have equal opportunities as their male counterparts, their weakness is still trying to get married at all costs...  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying getting married is a bad thing, I just believe it should be done for the right reasons.

Women have tried all kinds of tricks in the book to get their guys to marry them, from the famous “trapping the guy with a baby” to giving the guy an ultimatum!  Here’s what I don’t get, why would you want to force someone to marry you, how do you then proudly walk down the aisle to your future husband knowing that he is only standing there ‘cause you forced him and it’s not what he really wants to do... How does that make you happy? And how does that make that day, the happiest day of your life?

I’m not a relationship expert, I’m simply giving advice based on my opinion and how I see things... Ladies don’t force a guy to marry you, he’ll marry you when he is ready, and if you’ve been with him for 5yrs or more and he still hasn’t married you, then get the picture and move on... he ain’t  gonna marry you! 

A guy knows in the first 6 months of a relationship that he wants to marry you... he might not be ready but trust me he knows.  If he is at a stage in his life where he is ready to take that big step, he will be making changes in his life and preparing for the day he pops that question.

I know a girl who has been in a relationship with a guy for 7yrs, living with him and has given the guy hints, ultimatums, you name it... but he is still not marrying her... and I don’t think he ever will, she is obviously not the girl he wants to spend the rest of his life with, it’s sad but true... and if he eventually does marry her, he’ll be settling.  How many times have you heard of people being in relationships for years and never getting married ‘cause the guy wasn’t ready and then they break-up...  and 6months later he is getting married to some other girl...  Then the Ex becomes bitter and depressed ‘cause she sacrificed 7rys of her life for this man etc etc... 

Get the picture, before you get to the bitter stage of your life ladies and move on, your guy is out there... there is a saying in Afrikaans “Elke pot het hom deksel”... meaning every pot has its own lid, so go out and get your lid... and don’t waste your time with a lid that doesn’t fit... ‘cause it’s never gonna fit.

Another girl I know gave her guy an ultimatum to marry her, but he gave her one condition that they sign a prenup... and now she won’t agree to signing a prenup, which I don’t understand, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself and your partner... I’m for a prenup 110%!  There are so many benefits to having a Prenuptial agreement, will lay them out to you in my next blog.  So her not wanting to sign a prenup makes me wonder why she wants to marry her guy then?  Is it purely for financial gain?  It certainly seems that way.

Ladies get married for the right reasons and please don’t force your guy into marriage... you’ll end up miserable anyway in the marriage... It’s not worth it!  Life is short, be happy and remember no-one is responsible for your happiness but you.

Later...

 

Foolish Guys in Break-ups

April 22, 2015

So a friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend recently and can you believe it... In this day and age... the dude took back all the gifts he bought her... I mean everything, even worn and used things... What an idiot!  I’m sorry, but I just could not believe that guys do things like that, needless to say I’m very proud of my friend, she didn't stoop as low as him and left him with the gifts she bought him and didn't demand anything back.

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Inhuman Behaviour

April 15, 2015

It breaks my heart to see what is happening in our Country at the moment with all these Xenophobic attacks… since when does anyone have the right to kill people just because they come from a different country?  Have these people forgotten where we come from as a country and the suffering we endured as a nation during apartheid… It saddens me as a South African that our people can behave like this.  Aren't we supposed to be the loving, forgiving, caring nation… 

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Life and Love...

January 27, 2015

Life can be hard and challenging... How you overcome these challenges is what matters most.  The worst hardships one can face is disappointing the people you love... and because we are all only human with flaws... this will happen from time to time.  The people who really truly love and care about you will understand and know that we all make mistakes and most important of all is that we are all very different.  We don’t think and do things the same and for this reason we are always going t...


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Power of the Red Bottoms

January 23, 2015

So someone decided to surprise me with a pair of my dream shoes… yes you've guessed it… a pair of… wait for it… Christian Louboutin's… and they are gorgeous, sexy, perfect!!  The joy I felt is unexplainable, it was soooo intense, and I was filled with all kinds of good emotions.  I love shoes and that's a fact, everybody has their thing… mine is shoes. 

I've always known Louboutin's are special but never did I imagine that they were this powerful.  Everyone has been talking about...


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The Perfect Christmas Gift

December 17, 2014
It's that time of the year again... the thing I dread the most about this time of the year is buying Christmas gifts and that's simply 'cause I never know what to buy... and I don't think I'm the only one with this problem.  This got me thinking... and I decided to make a list of awesome gifts to buy...  Hopefully this will help to not get lost in the frenzy of last-minute Christmas shopping.

For Her...
1. Jewelry
2. Handbags
3. Shoes (Christian Louboutin if her name is Gareth... lol)
4. Cellphone...
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Friendship

October 3, 2014
Over the years I've had many friends or acquaintances in my life, and at a certain point or at the point that they were in my life they played a significant role.  While the friendship is happening you never imagine that it would one day end or fade. It's amazing how we outgrow people or how our life journeys go in different directions, all of a sudden.  I'm sure you have at some point in your life asked yourself..."how was I ever friends with that person?" OMG!! 

The scariest things I've seen...
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Champs!!

August 27, 2014
Last night my team won the Corporate Soccer League... whoop whoop!  It was one of the most exciting games we've played, the guys were unstoppable. I was the crazy woman doing a 100m sprint on the side lines screaming and... coaching the guys of course... lol... The feeling of victory after such an intense game... I must say is an amazing feeling indeed. Which reminds me of a quote I read once "Soccer isn't something that you can fake, its a feeling, a passion, a lifestyle." 



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Angry

August 6, 2014

So today my blood is boiling... and the reason for this is a soccer match.  Yes it just had to be soccer.  I love soccer so much it’s scary... lol...  So last night our soccer team won a quarter final game fair and square and today I find out our results aren’t listed on the website because the other team filed a complaint.  Not sure how this complaint, that’s only reported today can affect yesterday’s results... surely the issue should’ve been raised during or after the game.

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What to wear on a first date?

July 25, 2014

My sister and I were chatting the other day and she asked me to blog about what to wear on your first date, and that got me thinking...

One of the most famous expressions is “first impressions last” and that is so true, they really do.  So when dressing for your first date always keep that in mind, what you wear on a first date actually matters a whole lot, more than any of us probably want to admit. 

Don’t let your first date attire ruin your chances for a second date. What you wear ...


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